Resolve uncovered CUDA dnn layer #24080
### Pull Request Readiness Checklist
* Gelu activation layer on CUDA
* Try to relax GEMM from ONNX
resolves https://github.com/opencv/opencv/issues/24064
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- [x] To the best of my knowledge, the proposed patch is not based on a code under GPL or another license that is incompatible with OpenCV
- [x] The PR is proposed to the proper branch
- [x] There is a reference to the original bug report and related work
- [x] There is accuracy test, performance test and test data in opencv_extra repository, if applicable
Patch to opencv_extra has the same branch name.
- [x] The feature is well documented and sample code can be built with the project CMake
cuda4dnn: optimizations for swish, mish, sigmoid, region, resize based ops, transpose, identity-conv fusion
* bunch of optimizations
* more accurate implementation for mish
